XL Popcorn – The Wedding Banquet

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Progress: 442/1007Title: Xi Yan (The Wedding Banquet)
Director: Ang Lee
Year: 1993
Country: Taiwan/USA

The Wedding Banquet marks the fifth Ang Lee film that I have seen. All I can say is, that man has one hell of a range. From the period drama of Sense & Sensibility to the wuxia outing of Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon, I have yet to see a bad film by him. Then again, I have purposely avoided Hulk and Taking Woodstock for precisely this reason.

The Wedding Banquet is yet another side of Ang Lee – an LGBT centric comedy-drama. Now, there are not many gay interest movies that I have gotten on with in the past. Mainly because a lot of them feel a bit stereotypical and predictable. Film’s like Milk, All About My Mother and Lee’s own Brokeback Mountain are exceptions to this rule.

So, why did I like this film? The first thing was that the two main gay characters were not camp. This is a big thing  for me to get into a movie like this. The main reason, however, was how organic the situations, the writing, the humour and the characters felt. To be honest, it would be so easy to have created caricatures instead of people you can imagine meeting in real life.

The crux of the film is this – Wai-Tung, a gay Chinese man with American citizenship, takes part in a marriage of convenience so he can get his parents off his back and so the woman (his tenant) is able to get a green card. However, his parents make the trip from Taiwan to the USA and things get progressively more awkward from there – especially for Simon, Wei-Tung’s boyfriend of 5+ years.

The strange thing about this film is how it starts off as a heavily comedic East-meets-West film and then, around the time of the titular wedding banquet, it begins to descend into the drama. There’s a trip to the hospital, confessions, reconciliations and (now this is where the film lost me) rape.

What lose me is this, after the wedding Wai-Tung is left alone in the honeymoon suite with his new bride Wei-Wei. They are naked in bed because of some BIZARRE Chinese newlywed invasion thing (don’t ask, I have no idea if this is an actual thing). They are both drunk and exhausted, but she forces herself on him whilst he protests. There is no violence, but there doesn’t have to be – it is pretty clear.

The thing is, there is no real comeuppance for her other than the resulting pregnancy and this rang REALLY false with me. I mean, she was apologetic and all (and he doesn’t seem to think of it as such – so maybe I am reading too much into it) but there’s no real excuse here. The fact that one of the final scenes has her hugging Wai-Tung and Simon as they agree to raise the baby together was, well, just plain weird. Feels like a very unnecessary double-standard to have plonked into an otherwise good film.

Despite that lingering in the back of my head I was still able to enjoy the rest of the film – which included the begrudging acceptance of Wai-Tung’s orientation by his parents. The scene where he lets on that he knew all along and thanks Simon for looking after his son was very touching, but also troubling. The father seems to have played them all, not caring what happened, so that he could get a grandchild. Fun fact: if you want a son have a small boy jump on your consummating bed.

So yes, apart from the double standard I pointed out – really good film.

2 thoughts on “XL Popcorn – The Wedding Banquet

  1. I just watched this movie and googled to see if anyone else felt clearly that what Wei Wei did to Wai Tung was rape, and I’m glad to see some modern bloggers addressing this issue. Wai Tung clearly said no, repeatedly, it doesn’t matter if his organs may have responded otherwise, she assaulted him. And actually I found Wei Wei’s aggressive attraction to Wai Tung off-putting throughout the entire film, just because it’s a woman pursuing an uninterested man doesn’t make the stalky vibes any less real. Makes you wonder if anyone saw her actions through this lense back then, or if things really have changed that much in 27 years!

    1. Yeah, that scene and the fact that there were zero consequences really left a bad taste in my mouth.

      I think it might very well be the latter and that things are much more known nowadays and that these actions are now being identified as sexual assault. I wish I could find something where either Lee or the screenwriter were asked about this in a modern day interview – alas I don’t think this film is known enough for us to get their pov.

      Thank you so much for commenting 🙂

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